Be you so that you can be a more confident you.

Renate Cunneen says in an article, “Confidence: Born or Acquired,” that to believe in yourself you first need to be you. That is much easier said than done. A dictionary defines confidence as the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. Do you believe in yourself and can you rely on yourself wholeheartedly?

I sometimes still struggle to stay in my real life 24/7. I can disappear in fantasy land in a fleeting moment by merely wishing I could be something different or somebody else. I was bullied as a child and as a young adult. I sadly believed all those people who bullied me which ended up with me despising myself; feeling quite inadequate and like the odd one out. Since I have I learned about Louise Hay’s mirror work, those trips to fantasy land occur rarely. 

And so, I got my little heart shaped mirror and plucked up the courage to say, “I love you” to my reflection in the mirror. It felt weird, false and cold. I could not even smile at myself. I learned that day, with a shock, that I did not love myself. I was so painfully aware of my flaws that I could not even appreciate any beautiful aspects of my life and personality. I kept doing the mirror practice every single day until my ears heard my heart. I clearly remember the first day that I felt my own love and appreciation for myself and realised all the things I could celebrate about me.  I was slowly able to say, “You are a more confident you.”

more confident you

Years ago, I saw a cartoon of a cat looking at its own image in a mirror and it saw a lion. I could never implement these false rah-rah type affirmations successfully. The day I started to just be myself 100%, warts and all, was the day I started to behave, look and feel confident. I now see my true reflection in the mirror when I say, “I love you”. It reminds me of what King Solomon said, “As a man thinketh, so is he”. I was not perfect but there were aspects of me that were worth celebrating. I stopped hating the parts of me that were still under construction. I believed in my talents, skills and abilities and was able to complete any tasks that I tackled wholeheartedly.

Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, and flawed beautiful and magical person that you are. But I want you to take it one step further. Open your eyes and look at yourself. Really see the real, imperfect, and flawed beautiful and magical person that you are. Love yourself.

This brings me to the “I can” versus “I can’t” mentality. I personally believe it should rather be “I can” versus “I won’t”. You can do anything if you want to. When you apply your mind, when you find out how to do something and why you are going to do it; you can do anything no matter what.  

Sometimes my emotional addiction to feeling like the odd one out causes me to create situations where people could reject me and bully me all over again. I purposefully have to let go of the self-sabotaging stories that ruin my self-confidence and that reinforces the negative “you can’t” messages that degrades my confidence. Besides greeting myself with a smile in the mirror when I say, “I love you”, I did get some help to learn how to be more confident in my own skin.

When you reach out to a Valueneur’s Mentor Coach they will help you to be the confident you, so that you can ultimately believe in and rely on yourself wholeheartedly. 

Be you so that you can be a more confident you.

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